Wrapping up the love languages

This is the last love language in our series of blog entries about them. It is none other than physical touch.

“For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language, without it, they feel unloved,” said Gary Chapman, author of 13 remarkable books about the love languages. “With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love.”

Since the body is made for touch it is a natural expression.

Intercourse is a prominent way to show romantic, physical love, along with necking, sexual activity, kissing, French kissing and so many other common expressions. If your primary love language is not physical touch, then knowing when and where to engage a kiss or hug can be just as important as sex. A quick list for your next encounter with you lover: before or after you meet, in the car, in public/private, celebrating or grieving events. Filling your lover’s emotional tank with physical touch can be at tender moments, too.

This love language can be significant with family members and friends. There are a lot of ways to show physical touch to an unromantic person: hugging, holding hands, kiss on cheek, kiss on forehead, kiss on hand, kiss on mouth, massage, playing with hair, caressing a face, European bear hug, European kisses, gentle touch on shoulder, gentle touch on arm, dancing, high fives or a pat on head.

Chapman explains: “Physical touch can make or break or make a relationship. It can communicate love or hate. To the person whose primary love language is physical touch, the message will be far louder than the words ‘I hate you’ or ‘I love you.’ ”

I hope this series was useful. Finding your primary love language is important in understanding yourself. Communicating your love language will be have an impact. All reciprocal relationships are far more satisfying than guessing each other’s needs.

Perhaps someone has discovered their own love language and now are disappointed because it does not show their true vibrant character. It is possible to change a love language. This changing would have to take an ample amount of retraining a psyche. Plus, a person would have to have a tremendous amount of heightened awareness on the growth and progress into the new love language. Exploring this new endeavor with a psychologist or psychiatrist is a fabulous idea.