Frazzled by attraction

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, attraction can be explained as:

b : to draw by appeal to natural or excited interest, emotion, or aesthetic sense : entice
2 [singular] : a feeling that makes someone romantically or sexually interested in another person.

As humans, sexual attraction is exciting. Instant attraction can happen the first time you meet someone. The fireworks go off. However, sometimes, attraction takes time to grow. Qualities and values might ignite a fire. Either way, it happens.

Physical/emotional attraction can take many roles. Acting on this attraction definitely depends on if we are in a committed relationship. Even if we are “taken,” we do not have to be ashamed of our feelings. This is a chemical reaction that happens in the brain. It is pounded in our heads that people should feel guilty for even thinking another is handsome or beautiful. Men and women in committed relationships only have to be ashamed if they break its trust. Attraction will not be dangerous as long as it is dealt with responsibly. For clarification, I am speaking about heterosexual and homosexual stable marriages/ engagements.

Humans also can have innocent crushes the opposite gender and even the same gender. At this point, I am not addressing homosexuality. I am writing about admiring a person for specific characteristics and being excited to be around them but not desiring to sleep with them. The human species, we forget, is a ball of energy with instincts and intuition.

Men can be attracted to other men that have great physical ability, money or power. Women can be attracted to other women that have great hair, body or poise. Society even sets boundaries that make people feel bad to be attracted to not only to the opposite sex but also the same sex. This is why people turn this attraction into jealousy. There is nothing wrong with appreciating someone for their physical qualities or values.

I hope we can take from this blog a gratitude for our complex species and a sense of innocence about being attracted to someone. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

What do you think?